18+ year olds are adults. Parents have responsibilities too. It should be rare to not have a working relationship with your children and hopefully you lead them down a sensible path. Mine are currently all in college but should graduate with skills that are worth the expense. All going to instate schools and no loans. It amazes me seeing how many friends of my kids are allowed to go to any school their precious hearts desire even out of state and Ivy League regardless of cost. These people don't appear to have any more money than me (if anything less). One kid even chose the expensive out of state school because of the quality of food on the meal plan.